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A couple of years ago I was given a coffee mug that said “let it go let it be” if am honest every time I use this mug I think of something I should have or should be letting go. The question is did I let go. The answer probably not and if I did it was not at that moment.

Far too often, we want to let a job, relationship, extra weight, habit, etc. go and we find it difficult. Why do we find it difficult, the top two reasons Fear and Comfort. Fear, that once we let go we will be alone, have to meet new people, look for a new job, what if I become to skinny and so on. Then there is comfort that says there is nothing wrong with what I am holding on too, why rock the boat and change.

Then I read this on yesterday “let go and let love lead you” (Restart Your Heart by Jentezen Franklin). What would happen if we begin to let go of the people, places and things we are meant to let go? I believe we would discover a new found love for ourselves, people, places, job, our own business and much more.

So I will ask what are you and I holding onto and why have we not let it go? Don’t you think it's time?

I recently had a disagreement with one of my daughters while I do not remember what the disagreement was about there was one thing she said that stood out. She said, I was always hiding and I always kept things to myself to handle alone. In other words by the definition of hiding she was saying, I always keep my feelings a secret. Her words stung and I began to realize just how much I was hurting not only our relationship, but also my relationship with my two other adult daughters as well.

Somewhere in my youth I learned to hide my feelings under lock and a key. My feelings where my secret alone! There so many other forms of secrets that are equally as hurtful like lying to a spouse, children, employee, etc. withholding information for fear of judgement, sharing a friend’s confidential information with another person, etc. This list can go on and on. It is okay to keep things to ourselves but if it’s at the cost of hurting ourselves or others it may be beneficial to stop hiding and share our secret.

While talking with someone the other day, they stated how proud they were of me. I thanked them for the compliment but thought to myself how their opinion used to matter alot. Truthfully, not just this person but a few other’s, their validation use to mean so much to me. Then I grew to love me more and more. While I still appreciate kind words of validation and encouragement, I find it means more when I can look in the mirror and say good job! Today I challenge you to look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are bold, beautiful, loved, courageous and doing a GREAT JOB!

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